[RBS] Please Protect Your Children From Predators

Fri Mar 23 14:53:48 IST 2012

Lo Ta'amod Al Dam Reiacha (vayikra, yud tet: tet-zayin)
lashon hara l'toelet
the Hafetz haim explains the obligation to warn the public in order to
protect other people in klal yud, se'if vaav and klal tet, rechilut  se'if
gimmel
EVEN IF it may cause people to "l'hatil dofi" in a person

many rabbanim and scholars read this list - let's have some
feedback!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(but not from the 'rabbis" who think that abused women are not entitled to
demand a divorce, thank you very much)

in fact,a group of residents posted the name of a caterer who
was taking money and then not doing her work
and a group of people posted about a gas station that was  selling tampered
diesel fuel

and, when i had reason to suspect a  person of stealing, i was told to
announce to the general public to contact me before letting this person
into their homes

and these are NOT dinei nefashot

it is time to stop hiding behind "halacha" - you wouldn't call a rav
before calling an ambulance if halila  a kid were hit by a car in the road.

kids who are molested OFTEN commit suicide!!

according to the Hafetz Haim , anyone who knows from first hand for sure
that someone touched a kid in an inappropriate manner MUST warn the rest of
the public, in order to prevent anyone else from being hurt.

On Thu, Mar 22, 2012 at 9:23 PM, Shay Adler <shnortnshay at gmail.com> wrote:

>  Please, RBS List, I can see this email getting* returned to sender*.
> Please find it in your hearts to relay this post to the families of RBS.
> You can take part in saving even one neshama.
>
> Being part of the religious community becomes the hardest thing for me
> when it comes to molestation. Many frum people even gasp at the
> aforementioned word. Many others deny its existence. As a mother of small
> children, I feel as if it is my duty to make people more aware of this
> present problem. Yes, I know that I will get many emails stating that this
> problem has existed since way back in biblical times, and that it exists
> amongst every religion. I am aware of that. However, the issue amongst
> chareidim is the "hush" reaction that follows the occurrence.
>
> I am not doing this for the parents. I am doing this for the children.
> They are the future of klal yisroel and that is a good enough reason for me
> to send this email, and it should be for you too. I find it painful to know
> that these stories are happening constantly to children and many are not
> warned about it. I spent tonight with a police officer who is very involved
> and he told me that it is a bad situation here in RBS. He said that
> everyone is so busy worrying about shidduchim and lashon hara and so many
> children are getting hurt. Just today another child was molested in the
> park between Katlav and Micha.
>
> Being in contact with Magen, I was told that there are over FORTY known
> child molesters in RBS and they are walking the streets freely. Not only do
> we not know they exist, we do not even know that they are spending time
> with our children. For the few of us that warn our children of staying far
> from strangers, these are people that look like the rest of us and are part
> of our shuls and families.
>
> Sadly, Magen can not release the information of these people. I understand
> why they have not done so, but I do not understand why we are not talking
> about this amongst ourselves. How can we make our children more aware. How
> can we prevent these stories from happening, because they are happening, if
> we are constantly hushing these stories. The molester's pictures should be
> up and their locations should be known. They should not feel free to roam
> the streets.
>
> Because while you are worrying about saying lashon hara and ruining a
> molester's reputation in shuls, they are touching YOUR children
> inappropriately. You think these things happen to other people always and
> not your own, but sadly you are more than wrong. Majority of children don't
> even tell their parents.
>
> There was just a child that was molested behind the matnas right before
> Purim. I don't know all the details and I apologize in advance to the
> parents of this child for any false information. I am not here for
> journalism purposes and I don't have all the correct details. I am just
> writing this to make parents aware that these things are happening HERE. I
> watch small boys and girls walk alone to and from school every day. Small
> little innocent children who see the good in everybody. There is no one
> watching them. You can try that excuse that Hashem is watching them, and He
> is, but that doesn't mean you can just drop your babies in the road and see
> if they will be safe from crashing cars.
>
> This child was pulled over to the side, even while other children were
> around and he was told by a bearded individual that he should come with him
> to the side and that it was okay because he was friends with the boy's
> father. As children, we are trusting, especially when someone looks
> religious. I am not blaming the parents, G-d forbid, because I know we
> can't always be there for our children and I know that it is not always in
> our control. Things happen right in front of our noses and I know this
> first-hand. But when we can prevent it, we should.
>
> This mother obviously did well with her child. She found out what happen
> and that is way more than many others do. Make a good connection with your
> children and pray that they come to you if G-d forbid anything happens. And
> pray even harder that nothing should happen to them. Make it clear to them
> that it is never their fault and that there are bad people out there. There
> is a lot of awareness and things that should be taught to children and
> parents. You can get booklets from magen and read it up on websites.
>
> I am not here to teach you what to do. Find something that works for your
> family. Walk your children to school if you can, if not make them walk in
> groups and teach them safety and red flag warnings they should look out for.
>
> Stop hushing what is so present in our neighborhood right now. Little
> children are getting molested and raped. We should not be hushing things
> like this. You don't want names and pictures because you are too religious
> for that kind of "lashon hara", I am not giving you them. I am telling you
> a concept. Our little tiny, helpless babies are getting hurt. Many of them
> repeatedly.
>
> We are ignoring something that is so important for our future. *They* are
> the future, don't let this go by without some sort of change.
>
> Contact Magen for any other information or if you need any help
>
> "Magen" - Creating a Safer Community for Kids
> MagenProtects at gmail.com
>
> Hotline: 052-765.2929
> Sunday thru Thursday - 9am-12am; 8-11pm
> Fridays - 9am-12am
> Motsei Shabbat - till Midnight
>
> Administrative & Non-Urgent Matters
> 02-9997026
> 050-8489001
>
> This website is also very informative and has names of the convicted
> predators.
> http://www.besheket.com/index.htm
>
>
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